This is a question for both the fellas and the ladies.
Some gender roles have been maintained and others have dissolved over time. What are your thoughts? Do you expect certain things? Are there ones that no matter how much time passes you still want to preserve? Which ones are most important?
Cooking, cleaning, paying, fixing things, decision making, sex, holding doors, who drives, salary, who controls the remote, and anything else. The list is endless and nothing is off limits for this conversation.
P.S. I want to hear from both sides. One more thing, for all those people who love to stay anonymous, just be sure to add whether you are male or female.
Ace
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6 comments:
Things only change when the women feels its time for change in a relationship. One of my homies just told me his girl doesn't pay when they go out...that's his job. To that I say "hog wash!" In a healthy relationship it should probably be the man more then the woman but there's nothing sexier then a young, sexy, confident lady saying, "I got it baby!" But it's all up to the woman bc men will always do whatever a lady says...its too bad but true.
As a man I expect I lady to respect the fact that some things I do she won't understand and some things she will. But the reason I do them is because I'm a man and men do things that only another guy and understand. As far as roles, I'm traditional; I pay, hold doors, blah blah blah. She cooks, cleans and give me sex when I want!
Women should take a stand and take what they want. I'm 23 got a job, apt, and pay my own bills. I don't need no man to take care of me.
Nina
haha..Nina? You "have" and do not need "any" man to take care of you. You may need some English lessons! ha
I guess I would start with the idea that relationships work better when the other person is wanted and not needed. (As a woman I am all for the ladies that stand on their own two feet)
I also know the value of the little gestures (a.k.a. chivalry) that use to be common and are now scarce. Like when a guy makes an effort to get to the door first so he can open it.
The worst thing that can happen is when either person assumes the other person is somehow obligated. The guy shouldn't be MADE to pay, and it is tacky as hell to wait for a door to be opened. (I did see that happen, I couldn't help but laugh) The same goes for guys that pick up the check and then assume they just paid their way to garanteed sex.
I definitely don't need a guy to do things for me and I try not to expect it of him. Thats why I am always pleasantly surprised and even turned on when a guys goes above and beyond the call of duty. ha!
Wow, good topic! I agree with the last response by the anonymous writer. I don't expect it, and it is refreshing when it happens. I am a woman in her late twenties and I have been doing things for myself for quite some time now, but I look forward to the day when a man steps in to my life and does the occasional thing whether it is opening a door, paying th bill every now and again, (I Love paying as well, it trips up the guy sometimes!) meeting me out at my car to help carry the groceries in, that turns me on and would almost gaurntee sex! Nothing should feel obligated in a relationship, that's no fun and causes stress.
Things in society have changed so much, that I feel those roles of barefoot in the kitchen etc. are over. Some people will always believe in them, but I'm not old fashioned.
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