To Give Or Not To Give...

Ok…so I’ve been dating someone for quite a while, but we are not in a “labeled/committed” relationship, which is cool with both of us. Now…(and I hope this doesn’t sound conceited) but I’m approached by men all the time when I’m out (and I don’t mean out at the club…I’m talking about at the grocery store, in a parking lot, at my office, anywhere)…and of course one of the first questions is “are you married?”…no, I’m not….Then usually the next question is “do you have a boyfriend?”...no, I don’t…and no matter how I respond to these questions (because sometimes I will lie hoping the guy gets the hint), they almost always ask for my number…

I’m not interested in dating someone else, so do I just always lie and say yes I’m married or yes I have a boyfriend to hopefully get the guy off my back (which like I said doesn’t always work)….?? ….and the problem with being honest is if the guy knows I’m not in some sort of “committed” relationship, he has a hard time accepting that I just simply don’t want to give him my number…and if I dare to briefly explain my current situation then I get the “he don’t deserve you cause he won’t commit” speech….ugh!...leave me alone!

So my question for ya’ll is…..what do I do or say? what would you do or say? how should I be responding?

Please help!!

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Gay...Yes or No?

This is a simple one. I was in Arby's last night and a guy, well a girl that looked like a guy was sitting across from me at another table and she started to talk to me--correction pour his/her little heart out.

To make a long story and give you just one small portion of our conversation (Believe me I had questions) she claims she's not gay. But she use to be a he. And the new she is having with guys...gay, right?

Simple yes or no. If you have a sex change and start having sex with your previous gender does that make you gay or lesbian?

Wow...ZamFam

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Touchy Subject

So why do girls hate on each other so much. I was listening to the radio this morning and they were talking about Lamar Odom marrying Khloe Kardashian this is past weekend and the girls on the show were dogging her talking about how unattractive she is.

OK. Hold up this is my problem that I'm going to phase as a question to women but I want my fellas to chime in as well. On this particular morning show I've seen two on the girls on the radio show and they're are NOT hot at ALL! So, why is it that unattractive women talk about how "unattractive" a attractive woman is? Are you following me?

I've seen and heard, even sat in the room with women that I don't think are that attractive to me and heard them talk about how other bad ass chicks are not hot...haha. What is going on? Are women that petty?

I can guarantee 75% of the women that unattractive women think are ugly are probably hot to any guy. Do ugly chicks lack the ability to see clearly?

With guys you really get what you get. Guys are pretty clear cut because we don't have the advantage of make-up, fancy dresses, heels or boobs! So you can't really ask the same question to us.

So my question is why all the hate? If you're an unattractive woman--do you know you're unattractive? Don't tell me you don't because you'd know if you were HOT!

Talk to me ZamFam...

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Best Friends/Side Kicks

Let's talk about the roll a bff or side kicks play when you're out in the streets hanging.

A) First line of defense. Stops all the wack guys and girls from getting to you.
B) Second line of defense. After you've met someone you have to clear it with them.
C) Hater!
D) Support system. Regardless they cheer you on.
E) All of the above.

Let's talk about it ZamFam...

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Online dating

So a friend of mine that I work with was telling me about a girl his friend met on match.com. He said they went out a couple times but she lived almost an hour away so it made it hard for the two of them to meet up.

After a few dates my friend said his friend emailed the girl and said he didn't think it was going to work out...oh another important detail is the girl asked the guy how come after a few dates why they hadn't had sex (RED FLAG).

Moving forward after the girl read the nice, polite and honest email the girl SNAPPED!!! She wrote him back and called him every name in the book he said..haha.

So ZamFam my question to you is, does internet dating ever REALLY work? I wanna hear the success stories and the horror stories.

Who's first?

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Drunk texting...

I remember the drunk call it seems way back in the day. Now we have drunk texting. What is this all about? Why do people feel the need to express their feelings at 2am over a text?

Now, don't get me wrong a late night drunk call/text can make a boring night that much better if you're at home chillin or laying in bed...(from the right person of course. Nothing worst then the drunk call/text to the ex..ouch!)

Even better phones now have video??? Unfortunately my phone can send video but I can't view video's on my phone so I haven't had the pleasure of this phenomenon but it seems pretty sweet...haha. What about voice note?? (haha)

Talk to me ZamFam.

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Over Drive

Hello All! I feel like a virgin…well…a writing virgin, since this is my first submission to the blog scene so be gentle with me.

Any who, I was having a conversation with a good friend about sex drives. Studies have shown that men have a higher sex drive then women but unlike most women my age (late 20’s) I have an EXTREMELY high sex drive. It’s been said that women don’t hit their sexual peak until mid 30’s to 40. Well…. I’m WAY ahead of the game. Is this a bad thing????

I don’t think so, but is it be a problem if I want it more than him? Men often complain that when they get in a “committed” relationship, with a woman (not sure about homosexuals. I can only speak for the hetero’s), the sex is either placed on life support or may even flatline and just die. That may be so for some women but for me… I’m the total opposite. I find that I wanna “do it” way more often than he does.

Am I alone in this? Women…talk to me! Men… you can speak on this as well. Help a sista out! LOL!

LoyalT

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Little Black Book (Click for video)

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Lesbian Love....I don't understand it

I am just a man that is trying to figure out life and certain things just blow my mind or make me think strongly about certain subject matters.

Today I was looking at facebook and saw an old friend, she is now a lesbian. That is not my issue, my issue is that her girlfriend looks like a strong ugly guy. Maybe I am not understanding, but I thought the reason for being a lesbian was to like women. I think women are elegant, soft, sexy, not the pants sagging, do-rag wearing chicks that try to be men. Maybe In am being a man but when I think of two women together I thinking about something like Halle Berry and Gabby Union not Halle Berry and Whoopi Goldberg.

It got me thinking--maybe these women just don't like penis, but when you think about it they use dildos and such to get to paradise so that is not it. Maybe I am thinking to literally but I think women should be with real women if they are going to be lesbian. If you are going to date a tough, butch looking chick why not just get a man?

These are just my thoughts on lesbian women if someone can please help me understand this please respond.

Bobby Drake

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