Is that your ass?!

Are you serious, you just farted
Don't lie, yes you did, don't try to deny it
SHIT!!!!!!
My mouth was open, I was under the covers
We're suppose too be lovers

This really is making my stomach turn
Don't just sit there looking crazy
Go get some spray or an incense to burn
Your actions right now have really amaze me

OK that is better, but I can't believe you
Sure there was no doo-doo
Alright baby I am through, go to bed
Give me a Kiss boo boo

Bobby Drake

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Fucking Akron! Some Good Came Out Of It...(click for video)

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My plea...

Baby you are adored
Your mind, body and soul I have explored
The way you command a room just leaves me floored
Never a moment where I feel bored or ignored.

Look at you standing all of 5'8, cute in the face and thick in the waist
Short Nia Long cut from Friday...remember that from back in the day
Nice little butt, OK OK I'm sorry for that, you know I am a nut
Baby your smile makes my knees weak, when you speak all the words I keep

When I am heading left you pull me back right
You are my rock, you stood beside me when others mocked
I have become a man because of your love, I don't know if you were smart
Give me your hand cause I have given you my heart
This ring is the key and this poem is my plea....baby will you marry me

Scott Summers

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Blog update

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Untitled

I just wanted to hit it once
That's all I desired
What are you talking about you felt a fire
You better jump yo ass in the shower

I am a rolling stone, I enjoy being alone
No commitment or responsibility
Just have fun, as the moon shines on us I lay between your slice
So forget what you think you feel and what you think you heard
Its totally absurd, your ruining a good thing that's my word

I do blame myself for your obsession and depression
If I wasn't so determined to see you naked
My feelings I wouldn't have faked
I just wanted to give you back spasms from multiple orgasms
And a smile on your face as I slip out your place

Baby believe me this doesn't make you a whore
I just didn't want anything more
So i hope you understand
Its not your fault I am just a happy single Man

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Jealous Bithch!

jeal⋅ous:
–adjective
1. feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, unfaithfulness, success, or advantages

First I would never call or woman a "bitch." Secondly, the title is only used as a tool for you to open the blog and read. Here you are so let's begin..ha

I was talking with a female friend this weekend and she was talking to me (admittedly) about all the (crazy in my opinion) jealous things she's done in the past. I have to admit I was even a little amazed by her actions, but she's a cool girl and she "claims" she has reasons so who am I to judge.

Everyone has experienced jealousy and even acted out in some way. I never have bc I'm just a cool smooth brotha like that!! ha. I've had very few "girlfriends" in the past but 3 out of 4 were crazy and checked my phone (text), email, letters and even my mothers account (now that's strange). To not find anything then we have to have the conversation about them acting crazy and that's never good. Not talking about you team leader and none of my relationships since 07' but that's the cut off ha (so relax). jk

So my question(s) is who's more jealous: men or women? Why do women act out w/o thinking about what they're really saying? Why don't men care enough? I wanna hear some of your crazy stories of jealousy and I don't want to hear about any abuse bc that shits lame and any man that puts his hands on a woman is not a man.

Holla at'cha boy zamfam

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Goodbye Love...

Goodbye Love.....

I have loved you from the first moment i saw you
Ninth grade when we met
Trips across the country that I will never forget..
Countless other things we talked about that we never got to do.
The time we shared so innocent and true.

Talks of our future together has faded into an unfulfilled goal
Now I sit here alone, with a heart that now has a hole
I loved you completely mind, body and soul...But
I gave you less than 100 percent,
So I guess this is what i get.
A sinking feeling in my stomach and eyes filled with tears
I can only blame myself and my foolish fears.

I wasted so much time trying to just be, and had you waiting on me
Thought you were going to be there forever, I believe this
But now I finally see
When loves in your hands you got to grow up, be a man, and walk across the sands
Grab it with all your might
As our love goes out of sight, and in your rear view
Know that I LOVE YOU....GOODBYE!!!!

-Ghost writer

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ADC, Inc.

Thanks. I've missed you!

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Keys

I had dinner with a really cool girl this weekend and very good friend. And she asked me about keys??

What does it mean in a relationship when you're partner gives you keys? Is there a difference if you ask for them opposed to them just giving them to you?

Talk to me.

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Better days...

"I still think about you. I still dream about you. I still want you and need you by my side. I'm still mad about you, all I ever wanted was you. You're still the one!"

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Value of "I'm sorry"

Are there different levels of "I'm sorry?"

When does it mean the most? When times are really bad; when you really fuck up or after a time period for everyone to reflex?

These two words are probably the hardest two words for any guy to say and especially for me. Why you may ask. Well, for selfish reasons. I very rarely if ever think I'm wrong in the situations from my past (I know this is wrong and I'm working on it). Before you start judging let me give that statement some legs to stand on.

I know I'm a very good guy, but I have some commitment issues and I know it. I was told by someone I really care about that I'm just like every other guy out there. That I'm no good, selfish and an ass. Don't quote me on those words but that's how it felt. I'm not stupid enough to act like words don't hurt because they do. When you hurt someone I guess their words carry a little more weight and cut a little deeper!

So where does I'm sorry come into play? I've hurt people before in my past but I've done it w/o trying. I've actually always done the opposite. I always try to make everyone happy. I don't make promises about the future, I just try my best to be a good guy and live in the moment.

When I was younger it was always about the next best thang!! Recently it's been about me and not listening to what people were saying with their words, actions and heart. I understand that now and want to start to see things through a different set of eyes.

Today November 8th it's about listening. I really do want to be a great guy, a committed guy and it sucks that in the past I had to go through some tough times to get to where I am today. I'm not perfect but I'm really going to try. I wanna be loved and I want someone to love. I'm sure there's someone out there that "hearts" me.

For anyone that I have hurt in the past "I'm sorry." I truly am sorry for the "lumps" and bruises on your heart. Not sure if the value of saying those words goes up as time passes, but if it doesn't right now, today for me they means the most!

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I'm in love with a woman by Steven Miles

I am in love with a woman that doesn't want me. I try so hard to make her see that we are meant to be. She keeps coming up with an excuse but i stay there and take the abuse That's it, if she wants to be blind then I am bout to go out and find someone thats mine so when i am taken and she is alone maybe then she will realize that my heart was her home.

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"Big Deal?"

I got a comment about introducing your current boyfriend or girlfriend to the family or friends. The question was is this a big deal? When do you think it's right to introduce your partner to your family and friends?

Well, I think that the friends have to come first. It's a must bc they'll always be honest with you about your pick bc for some reason friends A. Don't have a filter. B. Think that you don't have feeling and if they say, "She's wack!" It's not going to hurt your feelings..haha.

I think meeting the parents is a big deal. That's when everything becomes real. Without mom's permission your relationship isn't going anywhere...just my opinion. I can remember one time my mother wouldn't let me out of the house with this one chick, haha she was pretty lame.

ZamFam it's on you. Speak out...

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HELP!!!

Hey guys I've gotten a couple e-mails asking where the new blogs are along with one of my world famous poems (not really, ha!)

Well, I'm a busy guy and don't have a lot of time. I actually already have three poems i.e. Success, Time, untitled on my camera ready to go just haven't had a chance to upload them.

So, in the mean time if you the readers have any ideas, questions, concerns you wanna blog about send them my way and I'll post them. Just e-mail me at zambeylocal@gmail.com

Thanks ZamFam!!

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To Give Or Not To Give...

Ok…so I’ve been dating someone for quite a while, but we are not in a “labeled/committed” relationship, which is cool with both of us. Now…(and I hope this doesn’t sound conceited) but I’m approached by men all the time when I’m out (and I don’t mean out at the club…I’m talking about at the grocery store, in a parking lot, at my office, anywhere)…and of course one of the first questions is “are you married?”…no, I’m not….Then usually the next question is “do you have a boyfriend?”...no, I don’t…and no matter how I respond to these questions (because sometimes I will lie hoping the guy gets the hint), they almost always ask for my number…

I’m not interested in dating someone else, so do I just always lie and say yes I’m married or yes I have a boyfriend to hopefully get the guy off my back (which like I said doesn’t always work)….?? ….and the problem with being honest is if the guy knows I’m not in some sort of “committed” relationship, he has a hard time accepting that I just simply don’t want to give him my number…and if I dare to briefly explain my current situation then I get the “he don’t deserve you cause he won’t commit” speech….ugh!...leave me alone!

So my question for ya’ll is…..what do I do or say? what would you do or say? how should I be responding?

Please help!!

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Gay...Yes or No?

This is a simple one. I was in Arby's last night and a guy, well a girl that looked like a guy was sitting across from me at another table and she started to talk to me--correction pour his/her little heart out.

To make a long story and give you just one small portion of our conversation (Believe me I had questions) she claims she's not gay. But she use to be a he. And the new she is having with guys...gay, right?

Simple yes or no. If you have a sex change and start having sex with your previous gender does that make you gay or lesbian?

Wow...ZamFam

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Touchy Subject

So why do girls hate on each other so much. I was listening to the radio this morning and they were talking about Lamar Odom marrying Khloe Kardashian this is past weekend and the girls on the show were dogging her talking about how unattractive she is.

OK. Hold up this is my problem that I'm going to phase as a question to women but I want my fellas to chime in as well. On this particular morning show I've seen two on the girls on the radio show and they're are NOT hot at ALL! So, why is it that unattractive women talk about how "unattractive" a attractive woman is? Are you following me?

I've seen and heard, even sat in the room with women that I don't think are that attractive to me and heard them talk about how other bad ass chicks are not hot...haha. What is going on? Are women that petty?

I can guarantee 75% of the women that unattractive women think are ugly are probably hot to any guy. Do ugly chicks lack the ability to see clearly?

With guys you really get what you get. Guys are pretty clear cut because we don't have the advantage of make-up, fancy dresses, heels or boobs! So you can't really ask the same question to us.

So my question is why all the hate? If you're an unattractive woman--do you know you're unattractive? Don't tell me you don't because you'd know if you were HOT!

Talk to me ZamFam...

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Best Friends/Side Kicks

Let's talk about the roll a bff or side kicks play when you're out in the streets hanging.

A) First line of defense. Stops all the wack guys and girls from getting to you.
B) Second line of defense. After you've met someone you have to clear it with them.
C) Hater!
D) Support system. Regardless they cheer you on.
E) All of the above.

Let's talk about it ZamFam...

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Online dating

So a friend of mine that I work with was telling me about a girl his friend met on match.com. He said they went out a couple times but she lived almost an hour away so it made it hard for the two of them to meet up.

After a few dates my friend said his friend emailed the girl and said he didn't think it was going to work out...oh another important detail is the girl asked the guy how come after a few dates why they hadn't had sex (RED FLAG).

Moving forward after the girl read the nice, polite and honest email the girl SNAPPED!!! She wrote him back and called him every name in the book he said..haha.

So ZamFam my question to you is, does internet dating ever REALLY work? I wanna hear the success stories and the horror stories.

Who's first?

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Drunk texting...

I remember the drunk call it seems way back in the day. Now we have drunk texting. What is this all about? Why do people feel the need to express their feelings at 2am over a text?

Now, don't get me wrong a late night drunk call/text can make a boring night that much better if you're at home chillin or laying in bed...(from the right person of course. Nothing worst then the drunk call/text to the ex..ouch!)

Even better phones now have video??? Unfortunately my phone can send video but I can't view video's on my phone so I haven't had the pleasure of this phenomenon but it seems pretty sweet...haha. What about voice note?? (haha)

Talk to me ZamFam.

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Over Drive

Hello All! I feel like a virgin…well…a writing virgin, since this is my first submission to the blog scene so be gentle with me.

Any who, I was having a conversation with a good friend about sex drives. Studies have shown that men have a higher sex drive then women but unlike most women my age (late 20’s) I have an EXTREMELY high sex drive. It’s been said that women don’t hit their sexual peak until mid 30’s to 40. Well…. I’m WAY ahead of the game. Is this a bad thing????

I don’t think so, but is it be a problem if I want it more than him? Men often complain that when they get in a “committed” relationship, with a woman (not sure about homosexuals. I can only speak for the hetero’s), the sex is either placed on life support or may even flatline and just die. That may be so for some women but for me… I’m the total opposite. I find that I wanna “do it” way more often than he does.

Am I alone in this? Women…talk to me! Men… you can speak on this as well. Help a sista out! LOL!

LoyalT

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Little Black Book (Click for video)

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Lesbian Love....I don't understand it

I am just a man that is trying to figure out life and certain things just blow my mind or make me think strongly about certain subject matters.

Today I was looking at facebook and saw an old friend, she is now a lesbian. That is not my issue, my issue is that her girlfriend looks like a strong ugly guy. Maybe I am not understanding, but I thought the reason for being a lesbian was to like women. I think women are elegant, soft, sexy, not the pants sagging, do-rag wearing chicks that try to be men. Maybe In am being a man but when I think of two women together I thinking about something like Halle Berry and Gabby Union not Halle Berry and Whoopi Goldberg.

It got me thinking--maybe these women just don't like penis, but when you think about it they use dildos and such to get to paradise so that is not it. Maybe I am thinking to literally but I think women should be with real women if they are going to be lesbian. If you are going to date a tough, butch looking chick why not just get a man?

These are just my thoughts on lesbian women if someone can please help me understand this please respond.

Bobby Drake

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Really?

Okay so I'm having this conversation with a young lady, just trying to get to know each other. Out of the blue she makes two comments that kind of took me by surprise and I didn't really know how to take it, so I just did like any cool, calm and collected dude would--I just said the normal come back "Oh really...?"

These are the two comments:

"Well in college I knew a lot of guys, if you know what I mean..."

"I love giving head, you know I get off from that."

Now, I am a pretty open minded dude, but this made me look at the phone like, "why am I talking to you?" Ladies, certain statements should be kept to yourself you don't have to share everything. It got me to thinking, "do I really want to know if a girl loves giving head?"

So my assignment for you, the readers, is to post something that someone has said to you that has made you look at the phone and say "are you serious right now...."


Bobby Drake

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Friendship...poem...experiment

So I'm working on a new poem (not really they're usually off the top of my head) and it's about friendship and a few other issues tossed in.

Got me thinking about a little experiment. I want all the readers to write (make a list) down all the people you consider "true" friends. You don't have to use their real names, in fact don't use their real names come up with clever nicknames that only that person and/or your group of friends will know.

You may be surprised at your list. You may be even more surprised at who "doesn't" make your list. And please don't be scared to hurt someone's feelings that thought you two were cool...ha. The truth hurts bitches!!

GO ZamFam

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Poem...Number ???

Listen the demand for me to post another poem is high. I was going to post another poem but I need some motivation...

Well I found that motivation. Friendship seems to be surrounding me. So my next poem will be about friendship...

Hope you enjoy!

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Lost love...

So, my question is have you ever fell in love at first sight or ever felt that true love. If you've ever felt this talk to your boy...

ZamFam

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Friendship...

So I'm chillin with a couple of my favorite people in the world and a question came up about relationships...

When do you make judgments on the level of friendship you share with another person. Today I was going thru a lot and I was looking for my friends to step up. The people that are close to me stepped and and shared their well wishes with me.

So when do you cross the line? If you're a friend or best friend are you that friend all the time no matter what?

Talk to me ZamFam

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How do you say I'm sorry?

When it comes to relationships whether it be in a marriage, friendship or any other type of relationship problems and fights happen. How and when do you say you're sorry?

I got some really good advice from a much older, more mature good friend I work with, that I believe his parents past along to him. It's very simple he said, "Cornell to make any relationship work, you have to pick your battles. Know when to fight and know when to say 'I'm sorry' and mean it."

Someone I love and very dear to me was upset about something this weekend and it wasn't a battle we needed to fight. I said I'm sorry in the best way I knew how and I believe I was forgiven. She means the absolute world to me so I'm glad we're back on the right path.

So, how do you say I'm sorry? Talk to me ZamFam!

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Kick Rocks

This goes for both men and women.

Let me tell you about an experience I had the other night. Don't you hate when someone comes over to your house and they don't know when its time to leave? I feel like once your purpose for being there is over you need to pack up your shit and break out. There is no need for you to continue to sit on my couch or lay in my bed trying to have random conversation that I don't really want to have about, shit I don't really care about so that you can stay longer. If you come over to cook dinner, cook it, eat it, clean up, pack up, and break out. If its a movie, watch it then roll out. If its sex, do the business then bounce.

If you hear these words, "hey what you bout to do?" I have to get up early tomorrow, or "its getting late" don't ignore these signs, take the hint and break out. If the person wants you to stay they will invite you to or when you are packing up they stop you and ask you to stay longer. Don't assume, play it safe and kick rocks.

Bobby Drake

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HAHA...like you never thought about doing it. All-Met Star crying? (Click for video)

Just for fun people, I'm silly. I understand he may have been going thru something. But his down fall was not asking KG permission to upload this, so he's fair game. Enjoy!

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Romance in a relationship (Click for video)

This question is directed at the ladies first. What does romance mean to you? What is the most romantic thing a guy has ever done for you? If no one has done anything romantic for you, help the fellas out there and tell us what women are looking for.

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Just a quick update (Click for video)

Just a quick update on what's been going on the last week or two. Also wanted to say thank you for the support. Thanks ZamFam!

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SAY IT WITH YOUR CHEST!!!!!!!!!

So over the weekend I had the opportunity to see Kevin Hart live in Washington, D.C.. He made a joke about his uncle who's favorite saying is, "say it with your chest!" That got me thinking about relationships and the horrible things we say to each other in the heat of the moment.

What is the worst thing you have said to your boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband? Secondly, what is the worst thing someone in a relationship has said to you?

Talk to me ZamFam!

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What the HELL is wrong with this guy? (Click for video)

Are you serious? haha...Kevin Hart is right--it's not even a real gospel song! What is up with this guy?



...And who in the hell is singing in the back ground? Get your damn off that man's naked shoulder...lmao!!

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Talk dirty to me....

I was talking to a girl friend of mine and she said her lame ass boyfirend won't talk dirty to her in bed.

So, I have two separate questions:

A) Do women really like to be talked to like this?


B) Fellas, do you have a problem talking nasty? Apparently there's one guy out there that can't handle it.

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Women are just like men...Break it down Kevin Hart (Click for video)

The funniest guy doin' it right now!

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Who's paying for that?

So, I work with this college kid, let's call him Mike a.k.a M. Phish for his protection of course..ha. And he has my brain all mixed up on what's right or wrong when dating and what the man is suppose to do and the roll of a woman in a relationship.

More specifically we were talking about who pays for dinner or drinks when the check comes (haha). He doesn't believe in paying for his ladies share b/c to him that's him putting a down payment on the panties and he doesn't think that's right. He'd rather go 50/50 and have his lady offer the panties (haha) b/c she likes him, not b/c he brought her dinner...?

My outlook is this, I like when a woman pays for dinner. Let's me know where we stand off the jump. Not that she's going to pay for dinner every time, or she's trying to prove she has her own. To me it means I'm on your team, let me be your partner and we'll do it together. Has absolutely nothing to do with the panties...(haha).

My guy Mike said 50/50 is the only way to go. I say whoever reaches first (Guys step up and reach more). I know when I'm out with my homies and the check comes we play the "Not it" game. Who ever is left standing handles that...haha.

So what are the rules of dating between men and women when the check comes?

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Joanna Shari...My new crush (Click for video)

Fellas...wow! Ladies please don't hate, I'm sure some of you will enjoy this!!

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Just Because...Amazing! (Click For Video)

Ade and Melissa from "So you think you can dance."

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You going to eat that? (Click to see pictures)

I was watching a movie this morning called, "The Brothers." Starring D.L. Hughley (Wack! Not funny at all), Morris Chestnut (People say we look alike...he could only wish....lol), Shemar Moore (definitely gay), and one other lame actor (Bill Bellamy...he's alright). The movie was about relationships and falling in love and the process men and women go through to get to that point. In one of the scenes the women are sitting around and they come up with the idea that if a man give you the last chicken wing--then you know you're in love!! HAHA

I believe this to be the stupidest thing I've ever heard, but it did make me think. So the question is for both men and women.

What are you willing to give up for love and what is the one thing you'll never give up? Let me add that Morris' love interest was the beautiful Gabrielle Union!

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Facebook vs. Myspace

This question doesn't originate from my thinking, but more the product of a conversation I was having with my boy.

Why is it when someone is mad at you, or you break up with a girlfriend or boyfriend the first thing they do is "delete" your profile on their Facebook or Myspace page, or remove you from their "Top friends list?" Ha..

Are you serious?! I've been a victim of this stupid shit. Someone, anyone, please explain this to me...Help!

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Friendshipland

Was talking to a girl friend yesterday and she was telling me about how perfect this guy is she knows. She kept raving about him, so my question to her was...

"why is he not your man?"

Her answer...

"oh he is just my friend. I don't see him like that."

It made me think damn he is in FRIENDSHIPLAND.

Friendshipland is that place between heaven and hell, its where you get all the responsibility of being a boyfriend without the fun stuff. You get to see her cry on your shoulder, listen to her talk about other guys that treat her like shit, you go to movies, you are the one that picks her up when she is down, but at the end of the day you are just her buddy. Fellas when you hear something like, "your such a good friend" or "your friendship means a lot to me." Know you have just turned right onto friendship ave with no rest stops in your future.

There is hope though fellas, women always seem to figure it out you just have to wait at least 20 years. You hear those stories about how people get married after years apart, that is because he was in friendshipland.

With that said, fellas you'll get the girl if you hang in there. She'll have some scars but hey if she is worth it you can shine her up like a diamond.

Just shit it think about, talk to me people.

Bobby Drake

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Falling In Love...Men vs Women

I was talking with my boy last night and he was telling me a story about one of his friends and this crazy chick he met on line. I don't really know the guy he was talking about, nor do I know the girl so I can't give you much background on either. That's unimportant, the important question is who falls in love faster, men or women? Now, I understand that's a huge question and a lot of factors go into "falling in love," but who jumps first?

Women that fall in love are considered to be too "emotional" or "clingy." Men that fall in love are labeled "soft" or a "punk" by their boys.

I love the idea of falling in love. Love is a fool, it makes you do things you never thought you'd do. So I'm not saying it's a bad thing just wanted to ask the question. Let me know what you think...

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Blame It On The Alcohol!

It's late and I'm on glass number three of red wine. I'm pretty much f#@ked up! Rappers have made liquor popular by shouting out names in their songs. What type of adult beverage gets you nice?

Let's make a list:

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What women/men really want...

"What women want" was a great movie starring Mel Gibson and Helen Hunt. Made me think, "what do men and women really want? I know what I'm looking for, so what are you looking for? Give me the top three qualities you're looking for in the opposite sex.

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Sex Registration Please

I was sitting at home last night thinking about some of my past relationships. Really the lack of relationships in my past. Normally this thinking process is something women deal with, but there are some men that do as well.

I need America's help! When did "sex" start signing someones name on the dotted line for a relationship? Just because someone has sex with someone that does not make that person your significant other. This has happened to me a few times and I really don't understand.

America please explain this to me. Let me hear your opinion...

Bobby Drake

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Tampa's Smokin Hot Azz!! (Click For Pics)

I spent the holiday weekend in Florida with my boy and spent an afternoon on the beach in Tampa via Orlando. The beach definitely had some talents out there, but I only caught a few. Who has the best azz in Tampa...A, B, C, or D?

A)Maroon Bottoms
B)Ice Grey
C)Baby Blue
D)Lady In Red

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Dirty Girls

So, what is a "Dirty Girl?" I'm vacationing in Orlando right with my boy and we hit the town last night with a couple of his friends. Now I'm not going to reveal his profession, but he does very well and because of his high profile position, the girls flock like birds. It was like being in a park and watching the birds scramble for bread crumbs. Ha!

This one girl in particular (with the worst picnic/checker board short set on) was falling all over my boy, eyes half shut, sweaty and dancing to the beat of the birds chirping in her head (in her defense she had a little butt). I joked with my boy, but every time this girl danced with him her hands were always around his pockets and wallet. Every time he went to the bar--she went to the bar. One of his friends gave her a great nickname by the end of the night..."fanny pack!" haha she was right on his hip all night. So close actually that she knocked a glass of champagne that was poured from a $500 bottle right out of his hand onto the dance floor in one of her drunk dancing rages.

Now, I'm not sure what happened when they walked out of the club and headed towards the valet parking lot and disappeared into his awaiting black truck (sexy!). You tell me what you think happened?

I guess my question is: Are guys wrong for taking advantage of these types of situations or was this a typical case of a sweet girl gone "dirty girl" once that Patron hit her lips?

Talk to me...

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Determined

I couldn't sleep so I decided to write what was on my mind. Not the best poem in the world and I’m definitely no poet, but it’s real, so here goes…

I’m Determined

I’m determined to be all that you need and all that you’d ever want

I’m determined to love you despite of the things you think I’ll be ashamed of concerning you

I’m determined to be there for you when the ones you thought would be aren’t

I’m determined to support your dreams because they’ll become my dreams

I’m determined to be that strong women to support you when you’re down to help pick you back up

I’m determined to give you your space but be there when and if you’re ready to talk

I’m determined to be the best me I can be so you’ll be proud to call me yours

I'm determined to be the best you've ever had

I’m determined; I’m so determined, are you?

Just a random thought.

Your girl,

Sally Goodwright

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The Perfect Girl To You...(Click for Video)

This poem is about how society views the perfect girl. It's a little deep but really not meant to be. Listen for how each sentence is start..."The perfect girl..." then at the end the message changes..."Your perfect girl...." We all have choices to make don't let anyone or anything influence that. Love who you love (That's deep, ha)!

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Ego (Click for video)

Ego is what you make of it. Some of us have one and many of us don't. I'm just having fun with my site and camera. Hope you enjoy!

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The Night Club Conspiracy

Why do ladies go to the club looking as good as they do, if it's not to pick up a guy? I was out with my boy last night at a club called The Park on 14th and we came across some really good looking girls. Now, it's not in our nature to approach women regularly but we're guys. Our goal of course is to meet women. Women what the hell are your attention?

You spend hours getting ready then when you do get approached you have attitude (what's that all about?). Are you looking good for other women? Oh, I see it's a competition, like guys and sports/video games you have to out do each other, but unfortunately you leave the men behind as causalities of war! Ha

So, my question is, why do you spend so much time looking good, hair all "did" and smelling good if it's not to meet a nice guy? And don't give me the bullshit that you can't find a good guy in the club because I'm there at least once month (that sound is me blowing my own horn!! ha).

Talk to me America...

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Mature Experience

What is every man's dream? I believe it’s a “Mature Experience,” a night of romance with an older woman at least 40. Why is this man's dream? Let me break it down for you:

First, all men deep down are mama's boy. We love the sanctuary of a mother’s warmth, that lovely feeling of being safe and secure.

Second, mature women know what they want and don't take any nonsense. When you approach an older woman you have to have your shit together. Bringing your “A” game is a must, so speaking in street slang with your jeans half off your ass is not going to get it done.

Third, mature women are selfless. When they are into you they do whatever for you. They are there for you when you need advice, a little money, sexually and unlike younger woman they can cook their ass off. Nothing is better than a nice home cooked meal after a long day.

Finally, the SEX IS BETTER!!! Sorry to all my 20 something ladies, but it’s a fact, you don't mature sexually until your mid 20's early 30's. I know all women think they hold gold between their thighs, but just imagine what it is like when it has marinated for a few more years (HAHA-inserted from the editor Uncle Charlie). Plus, older women are freaks they really know how to shake the sheets. They really know what gets them off so there is no beating around the bush they set the mood and get down to business.

Fellas, if you haven't had a mature experience find one but like I said come correct this not a Mickey D's date, so bring you’re “A” game. Ladies (20’s and 30’s) go talk to a mature woman, everyone has a freaky aunt in their family, hell it may be your mom! Ask some questions so you can get your game tight. Don’t think you are all you can be now, take the advice from your favorite song and UPGRADE…yourself

Bobby Drake

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Speechless...

I was listening to my girl Beyonce while cleaning the other day and “Speechless” came on. I had to turn off the vacuum, sit down and listen. I forgot how much I loved that song. If you’ve never heard it but it talks about making love/or having sex so sweet, it leaves you…speechless! Got me to thinking about speechless moments in my life. One I’ll never forget was in Chicago a few years back.

It had to have been at least 15 below zero outside and I and some colleagues are out on the town. We meet up with some friends at the club and proceed to have a good time. I see this guy “Ray”, whom I’ve seen every night of my trip. I’m feeling him and I know he’s feeling me. We cut up the dance floor, dancing real close grooving to the beat, yes, I said grooving. The rhythm is there so it got me to thinking,
“If he moves this good on the floor….” So we close the club down and head back to our hotel. We’re feeling each other so I invite him to my room, why not, I’ll probably never see him again so what the hell. I take a shower to wash off the sweat from the club and he does the same. We lotion each other down real good and he says,” I wanna give you something.” I say, “What?” Before I can even finish the word I’m flat on my back receiving the most incredible head I’ve EVER had! There was no stopping this man. He was like a dog with a ham bone! I lost count of the number of time I came. All I can remember is saying,” If you make me c** one more time, you’re out of luck because I’m about to be so sleep!” He laughed at me but we made it do what it do. I had NO words after…well…until he woke me up an hour later to do it all over again! We still laugh about that night. He turned out to be a really great friend.

Speechless....what’s your most speechless moment?

Your girl,

Sally Goodwright

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Baseball (Click to see video)

Taking some of you way back to more innocent times when relationships were easy...middle school. This poem is about getting to first base or second base...with an adult twist! Enjoy.

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Hollywood Crushes...

I was thinking as I drove into work this morning. Who is my "Hollywood crush?" Now, when I say Hollywood, what I'm really saying is celebrity. Doesn't have to be a movie star, or singer. Your crush may be a reality star, maybe a producer, or even a super model. If you had one night, one chance, one date with the person(s) of your dreams, who would it be and what would you do?

Who is your Hollywood/Celebrity crush?

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Can you take me there?

Sex is great! I love it! I was what some would consider a “late bloomer” but once I started, it was no stopping me. I can admit I’ve had a few pretty good partners but none of them have ever taken me to a place where I’d say, “Let’s try this or let’s try that,” until I met “Jon”.

“Jon” made me wanna skip work, call in sick and spend all day in bed with him. I came to the point where I wanted to ask him to do some things I’d never done with anyone else but didn’t really know how to say,”Can you take me there?” We did some things…okay, a lot of things, that tested my stamina and his but we both were able to keep up. I’m comfortable in my sexuality and I don’t think he would have thought less of me for asking but when is the best time to ask someone, “Can you take me there?” or do you just make the move yourself and “take them there?” What do you think?


Your girl,

Sally Goodwright

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Give it a number?

How in important are looks in a relationship? Do you look for inner or outer beauty in your significant other? Give it a number (%)...

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Superstars

So I’m driving and decided to take a look in my CD case, because I’m tired of listening to the radio, and what pops out...Usher’s Confessions CD. Man! That took me back!!! I proceed to listen and get to what use to be one my favorite songs, “Superstar.” It made me think, how many “Superstars” have I had in my life? And to be honest I could only think of one person.

It’s funny when I think about it because he came into my life during a time I wasn’t even focused on any type of relationship but things always happen when you least expect them. I found myself doing things I thought I’d never do but it felt so natural to do so. This man had me hooked from the first time he looked into my eyes. I tried to fight it but it didn’t last long. I thought I had it all together but boy did he knock my walls down…in more ways than one! I still view him as my “Superstar” and who knows maybe one day I’ll be his. But until then, “I’ll be your groupie baby, cause you are my superstar….”

How many “Superstars” have you had in your life?

Your girl,

Sally Goodwright

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Turn Off's...

I was listening to the radio this morning and they were talking about first dates and what were the deal breakers on a first date. So, to take it a step further, what are the top three things about the opposite sex that turn you off? Before, during or after a first date.

1. Late (Be on time people)
2. Not saying, "Thank you." (The most important!)
3. Acting like you have to go to the bathroom when the check comes and you've been drinking Bud Light like a freakin' fish! ha

Your turn....

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The BEST You Ever Had.

The hottest song on the radio right now is Drake's "The Best I Ever Had." It got me to thinking, who was the best I ever had and what made her the best?

My best without a doubt, hands down is "Hailey"(real name is withheld). The reason I think she was the best is simple, we just connected on all levels. Everything seemed perfect from the very first time to the last time. There was no boundaries between us, nothing was off limits, we both gave each other equal pleasure. We made each other climax physically but most importantly mentally.

She made love to my mind as well as my body. The feeling of your mind erupting with excitement, the physical connection, and reaching the highest points of pleasure at same time--WOW! There are NO words to explain that utopia. It was like a beautiful love song written by Marvin Gaye.

So, I want the public to find their "Hailey" and if you have hold on to it but if you are in the same boat as me and have lost yours do this. Never try to recreate what once was. You never can bring that magic back. Just keep the memory and start fresh who knows you may find something better.

See you soon....Bobby Drake

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Poem #5 Part 2 of 2 (Click to see video)

Part 2 is how a guy would see the same night. Please remember it's all in fun and good spirits! Enjoy.

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Poem #5 Part 1 of 2 (Click to see video)

Poem #5 tells the story of how and man and a woman could see the same night out on the town, the same, but different. Enjoy!

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"What if..."

Been thinking about this today...

I have come to realize that women live by the "WHAT IF" motto...What I mean by this is that women will ride or die with a guy even though she knows deep down in her heart of hearts that he is not going to come around and be the man that she wants him to be. Women, the problem with the "what if" motto, is that you are wishing and reaching for something that is not there a lot of the times. I know what goes through your mind - "if I do this he will come around," or "if I change this then I know this will get him to love me." And my personal favorite, "if I stay around him long enough he will see that I am the one for him." WRONG!!!! Sorry boo boo it doesn't work like that.

Unlike you ladies, men know what they want and will go after it. If you are not it we will either tell you or our actions will show it. Ladies I think you see what you want to see. Here's an example: Let's say I tell you that we are just friends and that I really enjoy your company and want to go out and kick it. Maybe grab dinner, drinks and movies. In a man's mind that is what it is a night out with my homie, but for a woman she thinks if we do this a few more times, he will come around and feel what i feel, I will play it cool.

Ladies, would you really want to be with someone that you are forcing to be with you, wouldn't you want someone that wants you and pursues you. I know I wouldn't want a woman that I had to con into loving me. I would be doing myself a disservice. The "WHAT IF" thinking just leads you to getting your feelings hurt, you having sleepless nights, and self esteem issues where you start seconding guessing yourself.

Ladies take control of your situation, stop dreaming see the reality of it and make conscience decisions and move on, find that man that wants you, the way you want you need and desire to be wanted.

Written by, Bobby Drake

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YouTube SuperStar (click to see video)

Having some fun with some of my favorite youtube celebrity that are going to move on and have huge careers I'm sure. Check them out I think you'll like them.

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Poem #4 (click to see video)

I was inspired last night over dinner conversation and youtube clips. My next poem will be entitled "YouTube SuperStar"

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Update...This is how it works.

This new singles blog will focus on the hottest men and women from around the country via video blogs. We’re interested in what you have to say about life, love and relationships. If you think you have what it takes to be one of Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot singles, here’s how it work:

*Shoot us an e-mail (zambeylocal@gmail.com) and receive detailed instructions on how to submit your video blog. In the subject line make sure you put Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot!

*Zambey’s panel of love experts (Not even close to PhD’s) will select the best and hottest video bloggers to appear on our site.

*Selected singles will be notified via e-mail.

*Users of the site will then have access to comment, answer surveys and leave messages in response to video blogs. Users can also become “Followers” and create mini profiles which allow them to upload personal mug shots.

So you’ve made it this far, give it a shot. Set your camera up, have fun and be creative. Look forward to seeing you on Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot!

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Titles and Feelings...

I been thinking a lot about these two things: Titles and Feelings. Men we get harassed by women all the time about our in ability to express our feelings and the fear of titles in a relationship. Well, ladies I am here to let you in on a little secret...we are not afraid nor do we lack the ability to express ourselves.

Women want men to express themselves and be locked down with titles so they can feel comfortable and save face in front of their friends. Ladies a man will let you know what he is thinking and feeling when he feels the time is right, not a moment sooner and definitely just not because your feelings have changed-now you want a relationship. If your feelings change there is nothing wrong with that, you have every right to feel how you want, but don't get mad at us because you want to change the status quo and we don't.

All I am saying, women have to learn allow a man to be a man and to grow up, take charge of her situation. If she doesn't like the way stuff is going with a man be a woman and stand up and do something about it. Stop using that lame excuse of loving him, if he loves you he will act right and accordingly, if not move on. Stop trying to make a man be something he is not, it will save you so many sleepless nights.

Ghost writer, Bobby Drake

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That Thang...called LOVE

Let me ask you a question. How do you know when you've found that right person? The one that makes your life complete. The one that makes everything better when you're down on your luck. The one that makes the good times even better when he/she is around to share it with you. How do you know when you've fallen in love?

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Enough is enough.

People need to mind their own business….

So I’m having lunch with some co-workers today and in our conversation the guy I’m dating was brought up. He and I have been casually dating for about two years and are not in a serious relationship, but he and I are both cool and happy with what we have and share. So why does my co-worker feel the need to tell me that it’s time I “re-evaluate” my relationship with this guy if he’s still not my “boyfriend”? And this is not the first time I’ve gotten comments like this…I hear this quite a bit from different people. Not that I need to explain this to anyone...but he’s not my “boyfriend” because HE AND I both are HAPPY with what we share and are in no rush to make it more. Someday, of course, I’d like to have something more serious, but when the time is right and when we both decide that’s what WE want….so people need to get off my back!

I am so tired of having to defend a “relationship” that I truly enjoy. If I’m happy then what the hell?!...leave me alone. Now, it’d be a different story if I was crying everyday because I’m miserable, but that’s not the case....as I’ve already mentioned a few times….I’M HAPPY!!...and more importantly, HE makes me happy. He’s an amazing guy and treats me better than I’ve ever been treated and he’s someone I’ll keep in my life forever no matter what happens because he’s that great.
I just don’t get it…..why can’t people just mind their own business??

Ghost writer, Southern Bell922

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Are you serious? (click to view video)

What do you think of the guy or girl your ex dates after you? Does it say something about you or them?

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Poem #3

I think my last post just inspired a new poem. Working title, "you can't be serious." haha

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Out with the old in with the new...

So I have a question for you. Have you ever dated someone and on further review of their past relationships found out that there ex was wack?! I mean busted, you look at them and say, "damn baby I'm an upgrade all day!" ha. That goes the same for the guy or girl that's dating your ex now. He/She looks f*@ked up and you can't understand how they go from you to them, or from that ugly looking freak to your fine ass...

Talk to me people.

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This is how it works...#2

*Shoot us an e-mail (zambeylocal@gmail.com) and receive detailed instructions on how to submit your video blog. In the subject line make sure you put Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot!

*Zambey’s panel of love experts (Not even close to PhD’s) will select the best and hottest video bloggers to appear on our site.

*Selected singles will be notified via e-mail.

*Users of the site will then have access to comment, answer surveys and leave messages in response to video blogs. Users can also become “Followers” and create mini profiles which allow them to upload personal mug shots.

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Your Love is Choking Me Out! (click to view video)

Just for fun people!

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Poem #2

Hey guys just so you know I don't nor have I ever wanted to be a poet. I got an e-mail about my post I put up a week or so ago about writing another poem. She asked when can she expect it? Well, if I get inspired I'll put one up today...but please remember it's all in fun..JT!! ha

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When marriage isn't the answer...

I just got off the phone with my cousin and for those of you that don't know him, he's laugh out loud funny. He made a statement to me about marriage. Actually his actual comment was, "don't ever f*#king get married!" haha...he definitely didn't mean to sound so hostile. You just have to know his humor.

So I played along and asked the obvious question, "why?" His answer like everything else he says really makes no sense in the big picture-"Because the SEX, SUCKS!!" haha

So my question is does the flame go out once the rings are exchanged. With the "I do's" is your wife officially saying, "I don't?" If this is true I'm never, never, ever getting married.

Talk to me people...

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Three types of guys

Where do I start? Ladies first of all stop thinking that you know what a man is thinking because you don't. Secondly, stop asking your "guy friends" because they don't know shit either. The only thing a woman should concern herself with is the three different types of guys. A) Ass-hole B) Lazy C) Good guy.

A) Ass-hole

The ass-hole is probably a good guy strangely enough, but the problem is once an ass, always an ass. These are the guys that make it so unbelievably hard for the good guys to have a good relationship because the girl is always looking over her shoulder for you to f*@k up. Ass-holes are the guys that only give compliments when it suits some selfish agenda. Or only want to do what they want when they want too. The guy that doesn't think any of your friends bring anything positive to your life. The guy that will look you in the face and say hurtful things because you (women) say it's OK.

B) Lazy (a.k.a Lazy ass)

Ha..I think most guys fall into this group because it's the easiest. Some guys don't have any ambition to do anything in life except play video games, adult league sports and pleasure themselves while watching, "Man, woman" on the Maury Show, or to Tecmo Bowl, which ever comes first! ha. Ladies be aware of lazy guys, they're the ones usually with not a care in the world. It's hard to get them to commit or have an adult conversation about anything, because they usually don't have an opinion...about ANYTHING. Usually this is directly contributed to them taking time away from their fantasy baseball draft or guitar hero!

C) Good Guys (a.k.a. Solid Dude)

Now, ladies we've finally made it to the good guys. To many of you they might as well be the Lochness monster or Big Foot. But they're out there. This is how you separate these guys from the rest. When you're out on the town, does he open doors for you? Tell you how beautiful you are more then once so you know he's into you? Call you out of the blue to tell you how wonderful you are and how you make his life better? Rather then "always" wanting to jump your bones, maybe a late night massage and a bottle wine. The good guys are the one that are genuinely hurt when things go wrong and do what they can to make it right. The good guys are the ones that can admit fault but are willing to work through it.

OK I'm off my blogging high horse. Just some food for thought for the ladies. Just think it's about time you stop trying to be mind readers and start with making better choices in guys from the start. Sorry to break this to you ladies but you're not going to change any man that's set in his ways. To be fair if there is a young lady out there that would like to blog from the opposite point of view please let me know...the mic is all yours.

Be good.

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Just an update

What's up everyone. Just a quick update on the singles sight. We're still getting a lot of attention and a few e-mails, but I'm still looking for the right video to be Zambey's Smokin' Hot's first video blog. So keep the e-mails coming. I look forward to your videos and blogs about love, sex, and relationships.

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True Love

What is Love? What does it mean? More important what does love mean to you? Love by definition means - (noun) a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Well, by this definition I think I've been in love before...I like the way Neyo puts it in one his new songs, "I never thought I'd hear my self say. Y'all go ahead I think I'm going to kick it with my girl today. I use to be commander and chief of my pimp riding high, until this pretty little missile shot me out the sky..." Those may not be the exact words but it sounds something like that. Fellas have you been in this kind of love?

My definition of love, which my friends and I affectionately refer to as, "that love monkey jumping on your back," is a serious type of love that I have to be honest I can't wait to experience. I said I "think" I've been in love, but I "know" I've been in love before on a lot of different levels. Love is funny because it will make you do things you've never done before, or never thought you'd do.

This weekend I think I saw that monkey on the back type of love. To protect the innocence I'm going to use fictional names. Let's call one of my best friends, Mike and his future wife Kim. They looked very happy together, they looked like they were in love. And to get to that point I'm sure it's tough on anyone, so congratulations on that fam!

OK I'm about done. Feel free to comment and let me know what you think love means to you in text or video.

For all of my fans I'm working on my next poem entitled "Love is choking me out!" haha

Holla!!

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Def Zambey Poetry..ha! (click to view video)

Just for fun people. Loosen up, jeez!

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Quick Weekly Update...

Just wanted to send out a quick update on how things are going. As of today we've received three video blogs, but they're not really what I'm looking for. Have fun, be creative and sexy. Most important, say something profound, or argumentative at the least..ha. Look forward to hearing from my beautiful people!

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Back to the Future...

Tell me about your first kiss. I remember mine and boy do I wish I could go back in time like Marty McFly...ha! I won't say her name, but if she ever comes across this post she'll know it's her. It was just too much for a 4th grader to handle. All I remember was wanting it to be over. She was older, a 6th grader and now that I think about it, bitch took advantage of me. HA!

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"Forbidden Love"..HA

Now this is a guy that the fellas should definitely be taking love advice from. He gets all the ladies!!

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This is how it works...

This new singles blog will focus on the hottest men and women from around the country via video blogs. We’re interested in what you have to say about love and relationships. If you think you have what it takes to be one of Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot singles, here’s how it work:

*Shoot us an e-mail (zambeylocal@gmail.com) and receive detailed instructions on how to submit your video blog. In the subject line make sure you put Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot!

*Zambey’s panel of love experts (Not even close to PhD’s) will select the best and hottest video bloggers to appear on our site.

*Selected singles will be notified via e-mail.

*Users of the site will then have access to comment, answer surveys and leave messages in response to video blogs. Users can also become “Followers” and create mini profiles which allow them to upload personal mug shots.

So you’ve made it this far, give it a shot. Set your camera up, have fun and be creative. Look forward to seeing you on Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot!

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