jeal⋅ous:
–adjective
1. feeling resentment against someone because of that person's rivalry, unfaithfulness, success, or advantages
First I would never call or woman a "bitch." Secondly, the title is only used as a tool for you to open the blog and read. Here you are so let's begin..ha
I was talking with a female friend this weekend and she was talking to me (admittedly) about all the (crazy in my opinion) jealous things she's done in the past. I have to admit I was even a little amazed by her actions, but she's a cool girl and she "claims" she has reasons so who am I to judge.
Everyone has experienced jealousy and even acted out in some way. I never have bc I'm just a cool smooth brotha like that!! ha. I've had very few "girlfriends" in the past but 3 out of 4 were crazy and checked my phone (text), email, letters and even my mothers account (now that's strange). To not find anything then we have to have the conversation about them acting crazy and that's never good. Not talking about you team leader and none of my relationships since 07' but that's the cut off ha (so relax). jk
So my question(s) is who's more jealous: men or women? Why do women act out w/o thinking about what they're really saying? Why don't men care enough? I wanna hear some of your crazy stories of jealousy and I don't want to hear about any abuse bc that shits lame and any man that puts his hands on a woman is not a man.
Holla at'cha boy zamfam
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First off, if you look for it, you'll find it. So I doubt that your 3 our of 4 girlfriends didnt find anything. They found something Uncle Charlie :)
I have been the crazy girl before and have done some things that I am less than proud of, but in my defense, there was a reason for doing what I did... and now thinking back, that should have been my sign that this relationship wont work. Women trust their gut and go looking for things, and if their gut tells them something, they should 9 times out of 10, trust it. Dont bother looking, you're right already.
I think a lot of it is immaturity as well. When you get into a mature, serious relationship that type of behavior shouldn't occur or people shouldn't worry about it occuring. A certain level of jealousy will always be there and is healthy (and sometimes a turn-on, ha).
To summarize: Women can be crazy, every last one of my female friends (including myself) has done something crazy in her life; but its a part of growing up and learning how to be in a relationship.
3 out of 4 were crazy anonymous!! Only two by definition were "girlfriends" and one of the two cheated on me.
When I've been fully committed I'm an open book so get your facts straight Anonymous!! ha
If Tiger Woods can get caught up anyone can...lol. For the record I knew he was cheating a long time ago. I know people!!
Hey Cornell. Who is Uncle Charlie? Anyways this is your favorite cousin. That's all I'm giving you so you better know who this is??
Guys are less jealous because for some reason most think they're cool and have options. When the reality is the person they're with is probably one stupid comment or one late night phone call after mid-night from leaving there ass.
Now you and all your little punk friends think about that...ha.
love ya cousin!
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hahahaha...lmao!! Hater...who is this? Only one cousin calls me "cousin" and she wouldn't say crazy things like you...ha.
Wow, jealousy. Good topic b/c someone has been jealous at least once in their lives. I like the first response by Anonymous.
I don't like to admit it, but I have too done some crazy things, nothing that could land me in jail, but things now that I look back think why did I even bother wasting my time. I was with someone for a long time and I checked his phone a couple times b/c he was cheating on me and I didn't believe it until I actually saw it.
I do believe that when you are in a "mature" relationship things are different. I know someone who left his phone out when I was out with him and I thought that was strange b/c it had never happened with the "cheater" before. I was actually shocked yet pleasently surprised for such a change of trust. If you're jealous there's a reason and it's probably not a good reason. A good relationship shouldn't have jealousy.
Uncle Charlie you might 'know' people and know that Tiger Woods was cheating... but lets just say I 'know' people and know that you have been caught up before :)
- Anonymous #1
Hater!
Damn Unc they are on your back but your boy is here to save you....Men don't get jealous because its not "manly" to express that much feeling. When men get jealous 9 out of 10 times its a violent situation, but for women its normal because women tend to be territorial when i comes to men. Women tend to always see the subtle flirts that fly over men's head and leads to their jealousy. Always think before you react
Twoscoops I agree... women are more observant and that can be an issue with flirty women. Good point.
9 times out of 10 it's violent, I don't agree. I was with a guy who would get jealous if I talked to another guy as a friend etc. He would give me an ultimatum which wasn't fair b/c that gave him the power. He always wanted to be in control of the two of us especially me. He could do whatever he wanted on the side as long as I behaved and was a good person. Men get jealous, yes it's not "manly", but it happens. I think most men get jealous b/c they could be cheating and hoping that the woman at home isn't.
Maybe they need to pay more attention to their partner so that their partner doesn't look else where for "things" and jealousy possibly won't happen.
Oh I forgot to say...Men also get jealous when they are lack luster in the bedroom. Fellas lets be honest if you are putting it down in the bedroom you are not concern with another dude cause you know your woman is coming home, but if you "JackRabbit" your girl and leave her not totally satisfied you tend think someone is doing the job you should be doing. I say that because that is the biggest fear for a man to have someone else up in their cookie jar. Women I think get more jealous when a man shares his feelings with another woman, and that includes your momma.
And Anonymous you said he gave you ultimatums, i bet you didn't cross that line cause if you had my 9 out of 10 would have been true LOL
hahahahahahahahaha...twoscoops what is wrong with you?!?!
After a certain age, I don't think it has nearly as much to do about immaturity as it does about insecurity. If you are in a relationship in which your partner fulfills you physically, emotionally, and intellectually than you won't be jealous - you have no reason to be because you know that no matter who your partner is with or how much they flirt, you know they really want to be with you. It's when your relationship is unsatisfying in one way or another that jealousy creeps in - in all of us, men and women alike.
Society has objectified men and women. We have made it socially acceptable to cheat and the media has portrayed this image of men and women that isn't realistic. Consequently, we have a society that is constantly looking for the next best piece of ass. No wonder people get jealous. We are constantly made to not feel good enough whether it be because of our physical appearance, money, clothes, whatever... You can get a divorce online in minutes and people don't understand that a relationship takes work - at least any good relationship does.
Uncle Charlie you said that you weren't in a position to judge your friend, but you titled this blog jealous bitch which regardless of what you "claim" your reason to be for titling it that, says a lot about what you think of her. Plus, you called her actions crazy and put claims in quotation marks. So, for someone who says they aren't in a position to judge, that is exactly what you've done.
Uncle Charlie,
You state in one of your comments above that "when i've been fully comitted I'm an open book". From previous blogs, you've made it clear that you have comittment issues. So have you really ever been "fully comitted"?
I'm a woman and I've checked a guy's phone before - never again. Not only did I not find anything but he knew I checked it. I was young but now that I'm all growed up I refuse to put myself through all of that. I still feel insecure sometimes, especially since my current boo is long distance but I have to remind myself that I trust him and if he does cheat that it's not meant to be.
Men do get jealous though. They very rarely show it but in my previous relationship (long time ago) we were both cheating on each other. When I found out I was hurt but in the back of my mind I had known and hadn't admitted it to myself. When he found out that I had dated someone else too he was REALLY hurt. He had expected me not to do anything even though I knew he was - another double standard but that's how it is. And for the record, never again because I've never felt so horrible in my life when I had to admit that to him.
anonymous, if you and your "current boo" aren't in a committed relationship, then i'm sure he's cheating. i've learned that the hard way and i trusted the guy with my whole heart, soul and being.
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