Enough is enough.

People need to mind their own business….

So I’m having lunch with some co-workers today and in our conversation the guy I’m dating was brought up. He and I have been casually dating for about two years and are not in a serious relationship, but he and I are both cool and happy with what we have and share. So why does my co-worker feel the need to tell me that it’s time I “re-evaluate” my relationship with this guy if he’s still not my “boyfriend”? And this is not the first time I’ve gotten comments like this…I hear this quite a bit from different people. Not that I need to explain this to anyone...but he’s not my “boyfriend” because HE AND I both are HAPPY with what we share and are in no rush to make it more. Someday, of course, I’d like to have something more serious, but when the time is right and when we both decide that’s what WE want….so people need to get off my back!

I am so tired of having to defend a “relationship” that I truly enjoy. If I’m happy then what the hell?!...leave me alone. Now, it’d be a different story if I was crying everyday because I’m miserable, but that’s not the case....as I’ve already mentioned a few times….I’M HAPPY!!...and more importantly, HE makes me happy. He’s an amazing guy and treats me better than I’ve ever been treated and he’s someone I’ll keep in my life forever no matter what happens because he’s that great.
I just don’t get it…..why can’t people just mind their own business??

Ghost writer, Southern Bell922

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Are you serious? (click to view video)

What do you think of the guy or girl your ex dates after you? Does it say something about you or them?

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Poem #3

I think my last post just inspired a new poem. Working title, "you can't be serious." haha

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Out with the old in with the new...

So I have a question for you. Have you ever dated someone and on further review of their past relationships found out that there ex was wack?! I mean busted, you look at them and say, "damn baby I'm an upgrade all day!" ha. That goes the same for the guy or girl that's dating your ex now. He/She looks f*@ked up and you can't understand how they go from you to them, or from that ugly looking freak to your fine ass...

Talk to me people.

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This is how it works...#2

*Shoot us an e-mail (zambeylocal@gmail.com) and receive detailed instructions on how to submit your video blog. In the subject line make sure you put Zambey’s Smokin’ Hot!

*Zambey’s panel of love experts (Not even close to PhD’s) will select the best and hottest video bloggers to appear on our site.

*Selected singles will be notified via e-mail.

*Users of the site will then have access to comment, answer surveys and leave messages in response to video blogs. Users can also become “Followers” and create mini profiles which allow them to upload personal mug shots.

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Your Love is Choking Me Out! (click to view video)

Just for fun people!

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Poem #2

Hey guys just so you know I don't nor have I ever wanted to be a poet. I got an e-mail about my post I put up a week or so ago about writing another poem. She asked when can she expect it? Well, if I get inspired I'll put one up today...but please remember it's all in fun..JT!! ha

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When marriage isn't the answer...

I just got off the phone with my cousin and for those of you that don't know him, he's laugh out loud funny. He made a statement to me about marriage. Actually his actual comment was, "don't ever f*#king get married!" haha...he definitely didn't mean to sound so hostile. You just have to know his humor.

So I played along and asked the obvious question, "why?" His answer like everything else he says really makes no sense in the big picture-"Because the SEX, SUCKS!!" haha

So my question is does the flame go out once the rings are exchanged. With the "I do's" is your wife officially saying, "I don't?" If this is true I'm never, never, ever getting married.

Talk to me people...

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Three types of guys

Where do I start? Ladies first of all stop thinking that you know what a man is thinking because you don't. Secondly, stop asking your "guy friends" because they don't know shit either. The only thing a woman should concern herself with is the three different types of guys. A) Ass-hole B) Lazy C) Good guy.

A) Ass-hole

The ass-hole is probably a good guy strangely enough, but the problem is once an ass, always an ass. These are the guys that make it so unbelievably hard for the good guys to have a good relationship because the girl is always looking over her shoulder for you to f*@k up. Ass-holes are the guys that only give compliments when it suits some selfish agenda. Or only want to do what they want when they want too. The guy that doesn't think any of your friends bring anything positive to your life. The guy that will look you in the face and say hurtful things because you (women) say it's OK.

B) Lazy (a.k.a Lazy ass)

Ha..I think most guys fall into this group because it's the easiest. Some guys don't have any ambition to do anything in life except play video games, adult league sports and pleasure themselves while watching, "Man, woman" on the Maury Show, or to Tecmo Bowl, which ever comes first! ha. Ladies be aware of lazy guys, they're the ones usually with not a care in the world. It's hard to get them to commit or have an adult conversation about anything, because they usually don't have an opinion...about ANYTHING. Usually this is directly contributed to them taking time away from their fantasy baseball draft or guitar hero!

C) Good Guys (a.k.a. Solid Dude)

Now, ladies we've finally made it to the good guys. To many of you they might as well be the Lochness monster or Big Foot. But they're out there. This is how you separate these guys from the rest. When you're out on the town, does he open doors for you? Tell you how beautiful you are more then once so you know he's into you? Call you out of the blue to tell you how wonderful you are and how you make his life better? Rather then "always" wanting to jump your bones, maybe a late night massage and a bottle wine. The good guys are the one that are genuinely hurt when things go wrong and do what they can to make it right. The good guys are the ones that can admit fault but are willing to work through it.

OK I'm off my blogging high horse. Just some food for thought for the ladies. Just think it's about time you stop trying to be mind readers and start with making better choices in guys from the start. Sorry to break this to you ladies but you're not going to change any man that's set in his ways. To be fair if there is a young lady out there that would like to blog from the opposite point of view please let me know...the mic is all yours.

Be good.

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Just an update

What's up everyone. Just a quick update on the singles sight. We're still getting a lot of attention and a few e-mails, but I'm still looking for the right video to be Zambey's Smokin' Hot's first video blog. So keep the e-mails coming. I look forward to your videos and blogs about love, sex, and relationships.

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True Love

What is Love? What does it mean? More important what does love mean to you? Love by definition means - (noun) a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Well, by this definition I think I've been in love before...I like the way Neyo puts it in one his new songs, "I never thought I'd hear my self say. Y'all go ahead I think I'm going to kick it with my girl today. I use to be commander and chief of my pimp riding high, until this pretty little missile shot me out the sky..." Those may not be the exact words but it sounds something like that. Fellas have you been in this kind of love?

My definition of love, which my friends and I affectionately refer to as, "that love monkey jumping on your back," is a serious type of love that I have to be honest I can't wait to experience. I said I "think" I've been in love, but I "know" I've been in love before on a lot of different levels. Love is funny because it will make you do things you've never done before, or never thought you'd do.

This weekend I think I saw that monkey on the back type of love. To protect the innocence I'm going to use fictional names. Let's call one of my best friends, Mike and his future wife Kim. They looked very happy together, they looked like they were in love. And to get to that point I'm sure it's tough on anyone, so congratulations on that fam!

OK I'm about done. Feel free to comment and let me know what you think love means to you in text or video.

For all of my fans I'm working on my next poem entitled "Love is choking me out!" haha

Holla!!

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