Ok…so I’ve been dating someone for quite a while, but we are not in a “labeled/committed” relationship, which is cool with both of us. Now…(and I hope this doesn’t sound conceited) but I’m approached by men all the time when I’m out (and I don’t mean out at the club…I’m talking about at the grocery store, in a parking lot, at my office, anywhere)…and of course one of the first questions is “are you married?”…no, I’m not….Then usually the next question is “do you have a boyfriend?”...no, I don’t…and no matter how I respond to these questions (because sometimes I will lie hoping the guy gets the hint), they almost always ask for my number…
I’m not interested in dating someone else, so do I just always lie and say yes I’m married or yes I have a boyfriend to hopefully get the guy off my back (which like I said doesn’t always work)….?? ….and the problem with being honest is if the guy knows I’m not in some sort of “committed” relationship, he has a hard time accepting that I just simply don’t want to give him my number…and if I dare to briefly explain my current situation then I get the “he don’t deserve you cause he won’t commit” speech….ugh!...leave me alone!
So my question for ya’ll is…..what do I do or say? what would you do or say? how should I be responding?
Please help!!
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well, it sounds to me like you need a more clearly defined 'relationship'... even if you are happy with your man, he really needs to treat you like his queen and let the world know that you are his!! i don't blame you for wondering how to respond to the guys who approach you - you are technically single, right?! what's a girl to do...
feel ya! so tired of men taking us ladies for granted. do what you gotta do!
I agree. Drop him like a bad habit!
haha...well thank you ladies for the comments (as i'm the 'ghost writer')...but my questions/concerns aren't about my current situation, they're about these random guys that don't get the hint that i'm not interested.
I've been in somewhat of a similar situation, although I was not happy b/c I wasn't getting the commitment. You "say" you're happy.
To me if you're happy and you don't want another man in your life it shouldn't be this hard. You commited to someone else at the moment. Do the suiters need to know it's not a relationship or that he's not exactly your boyfriend. No, they don't. Just say, thank you for the compliment, but I'm involved with someone else, totally not complicated. You are making it harder then it should be!!!
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